Some of the most significant messages people deliver
to one another often come in just three words. When
spoken or conveyed, those statements have the power to
forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore
relationships that have cooled. The following
three-word phrases can enrich every relationship.
I’LL BE THERE – Being there for another person is the
greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present
for other people, important things happen to them and
to us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are
restored emotionally and spiritually. ‘Being there’ is
at the very very core of civility.
I MISS YOU – Perhaps more marriages could be salvaged
and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said
to each other, “I miss you.” This powerful affirmation
tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and
I RESPECT YOU – Respect is another way of showing
love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person
is a true equal. It is a powerful way to affirm the
importance of a relationship.
MAYBE YOU’RE RIGHT – This phrase is highly effective
in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed
emotions. The flip side of “maybe you’re right” is the
humility of admitting “maybe I’m wrong.”
PLEASE FORGIVE ME – Many broken relationships could be
restored and healed if people would admit their
mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are
vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man
should never be ashamed to own he has been in the
wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is
wiser today than he was yesterday.
I THANK YOU – Gratitude is an exquisite form of
courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good,
close friends are those who don’t take daily
courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their
friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the
other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely
constricted often do not have the attitude of
COUNT ON ME – “A friend is one who walks in when
others walk out,” Loyalty is an essential ingredient
for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that
bonds people. Those who are rich in their
relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When
troubles come, a good friend is there, indicating “you
can count on me.”
LET ME HELP – The best of friends see a need and try
to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they
can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and
I UNDERSTAND YOU – People become closer and enjoy each
other more if they feel the other person accepts and
understands them. Letting others know in so many
little ways that you understand him or her is one of
the most powerful tools for healing your relationship.
GO FOR IT – Some of your friends may be non
conformists, have unique projects and unusual hobbies.
Support them in pursuing their interests. Rather than
urging your loved ones to conform, encourage their
uniqueness-everyone has dreams that no one else has.
I suppose the 3 little words that you were expecting
to see have to be reserved for those who are special;
that is I LOVE YOU.